White girls and Indian guys in the USA

[nahor]

Its pathetic to read the white woman's opinions on why Indian men date or marry or whatever ... white women. Your man must have fallen in love with you for who you are. But that does not mean that all Indian men are like your man. If only you heard the things Indian men talk about white women, you would know that most use you only for the momentary physical part.
For long term relationships and family, Indian men prefer Indian women.
Indian women on the streets may give you the looks not because they are jealous-remember there are half a billion of them in this world-so no competition. They give you looks because the only thought going through their mind is that you two are sleeping around -its rather a dirty look they are giving you and PLEASE DO NOT MISTAKE IT FOR JEALOUSY.
I cannot but laugh at your comments that indian women are not preferred because they are fat, loud mean etc. Haven't you seen majority of white women that are Obese, loud, mean with no moral values-who sleep with any man at the drop of a hat. COMMON -GET REAL.
Your man may have have told you these as his reasons for choosing you because he knows you have an inflatable ego, need it boosted like this at the cost of slandering indian women so that you won't sleep with another guy that you meet round the corner. You white women are too easy.

Good luck sister and remember that the world looks at you white women as nothing more than physical objects.

[bheja]

"Why do Indians consider themselves as white?
All of my Indian friends deny their race as Asians and call themselves Americans just because they were born here.
They go around and make fun of other Asian's dialects and physical appearances.
One of my friend really thinks that others consider him as "white", and he likes it that way."


Dude, the term "Indian" is not defined only by the American born Indians you met. They are American citizens and are more American than anything. I don't understand why you expect American born Indians to introduce themselves as Indain while you don't expect an American born Irish to introduce himself as Irish? I am surprised that in US even a naturalised white coming from some Polish village is called "American" while fourth generation black or brown guys are still called Afro-American or Asian-American.

Now my question is why white people call themsleves as American and not as Slovakian or Irish or something like that? Why is the term European American not used as often as Afro American is used?

Noffence given, no offence taken!

[diamondcolosus]

You are soo true barbie....HATS OFF...!!!!!!!!

[diamondcolosus]

I guess losing virginity....is ok.....but gettin knocked up.....dumped is bad.....

[shalimarsajan]

Hello indian have their VALUES for real..
I AM SORRY TO BE RUDE AND HARSH HERE..i WIL TELL THAT ALL TH usA AND OTHER COUNTRIES LIKE AUSTLIAN ARE FINACIALLY GOOD IN POSITION..THIS ARE TEHE JUNK NATIONS WHERE ALL THE HISTORY WILL TELL YOU..ALL THE CRIMANLS ARE BE JAILED IN THE PAST..ABOUT AND THE USA DOEN`T BELONGS TO THE REAL WESTERNERS THOSE WHO LEFT THEIR OWN LAND FROM AROUND THE WORLD SETTLED THEIR ON CALLED USA..THROUGH YEARS AND DECADES..REAL AMERICAN ARE RED INDIANS!!!!!!NO ON HAS THE RIGHT TO BE CALLED AS ...US PERSONAL , ALL HAVE TO BE STRANGERS FROM DIFFERENT NATIONS OTHER THAN THEM..ANY WAY GO FOR THE PAST TIME HISTORICAL ADVENTURE ..SEE THE MOVIE CALLED ALEXANDER THE GREAT ..IT WILL EXPLAIN THE GREAY FOR THE WHITE AND WHAT WAS TH ATLITUDE..THEN WHERE DID HE FALL DOWN..THE POWERFUL NATION CALLED INDIA SO THE POWER OF CULTUE NA STRENGTH CAN BE NEVER BE COMPARED TO THE INDIAN MINDS AND LIFE ..HOW MUCH IS THE DIVORSE IN US AND HOW MUCH IS IT INDIA MAY BE THE COMPARING FACTORS .WILL NOT BE GOOD .FOR THIS AND HOW WILL THE LIFE OF THOSE DIFFERENT CULTURE CAN BE COMPARED..SORRY TO SEE THAT FEW HAVE BAD FEELINGSAND HAVE THE MIND AGAINTS INDIANS EVEN IF THEY ARE AWAY FROM THEM OR NOT NEAR THEM..ONCE WHITE RULED INDIA ..BRITISH NOW DIVIDE AND RULE DOENT WORK BUT STILL FIGHTING HERE WITH POWER THEY HAVE CALLED SUPERMACY....THEN HERE INTERNET.ALL THE THINGS ARE FOOLS THINKING....ANYWAY GOOD TO LISTEN ALL THIS...SAJAN..

[teri]

I am a 32-year old female Scottish tourist and businesswoman, and have been traveling and working in India for five months. Given the recent news highlighting the behavior of Indian men towards foreign female tourists, I have decided to write to you with the experiences I have encountered during my travels.

I have found most Indian men to be respectful and courteous, especially in the north, where in smaller villages and in rural areas there is a true sense of genuine decency and kindness from the local people. However, on reaching the larger towns and cities, such as Chennai and more notably Bangalore, which prides itself on being a modern, forward thinking and cosmopolitan city, I have experienced a very different and much less appealing side to India.

In Chennai, for example, my husband and I were asked to be joined at our table by a small group of gentlemen who seemed to be interested in our travels and reasons for visiting their country. We were more than happy to chat with them; however, I became increasingly more uncomfortable as the gentleman sitting next to me touched my leg. At first I thought this to be an innocent mistake, but his intentions soon became clear when he proceeded to ask completely inappropriate questions regarding my sex life.

Disgusted with this behavior, we left the restaurant, only to be followed along the street and propositioned by another member of the group on his motorbike. The gentleman's excuse for his behavior was that the believed western women to promiscuous and that this should be acceptable! I found this to be highly offensive and was left with an insight of a very seedy side of India and a bad impression of Chennai men, which is off-putting me both in a travel and business sense.

In Bangalore, similar behavior was encountered when myself and my husband went to a stylish bar frequented by both men and women. A group of young men approached us to chat about our visit. When my husband left for only two minutes to use the toilet, one gentleman immediately touched my face and hair. I pushed him away and made my objections very clear and when my husband returned, we decided to leave. However, as we were leaving, another gentleman in the group made led and suggestive comments, further adding to my embarrassment and insult. Again, I was left with a feeling of distaste and an evening ruined.

It is ironic that a city which is striving to be one of the world's leading business and commerce hub complete with its sophisticated, modern bars and restaurants, should embarrass and alienate itself in such a poor manner. It poses the question, "Why are many of its men still stuck in the dark ages?" And so, sadly, it will struggle to compete with the rest of the world in business and tourism whilst it still holds this highly offensive attitude towards half the world's population.

I have experienced a number of other incidences of being grouped or harassed during my travels, and many of my female friends who have also traveled throughout India have had similar experiences. It is ironic that in India's holy Puri, I was jeered at by a couple of men as they passed on their motorbike.
(Would these men act in a similar way towards Indian women?) In a country which prides itself on its moral chastity and often casts a critical eye over western "Hollywood" behavior, I sadly sense an air of hypocrisy.

So, while I leave India with a multitude of fond memories of its fascinating and diverse culture, wildlife, spirituality and natural beauty, I am also leaving with a slightly tarnished impression due to the behavior and ignorance of a minority of its men.

(Please note that on all these occasions I was modestly and conservatively dressed, respecting Indian culture. I have read comments on many similar articles that women who were subjected to sexual harassment were somehow provocatively dressed or behaving in some flirtatious manner, leading these 'poor' men astray. To me this seems like an unhelpful and poor justification to allow this behavior to continue; however, I would like to set the matter straight that this was certainly not the case.)

[bheja]

Tera
I express my apologies for all the crap you had to go through in these so called booming cities of India. I also express my sincere thanks to you for not just pointing out the bad but still praising the good experiences which many people irrespective of ethnicity lack. I must say some people from these states grow in a very repressed environment for which they don't really get even chances to considerably even befriend the other gender. Again it depends on family background too. Some creepy people exist everywhere. I again agree with you that the people from the countrysides would be more decent. But that doesn't make all Indian men as lewd as they are.

[rush1615]

I agree that due to tradition and culture, they don't have fun with indian women. So, to satisfy their sexual pleasure, they go with white women. Few people believe that White women get easily pleased and they like to show off their body. That maybe the problem for terra. I also agree that some guys are bad and they are like goon. But it is more depend on the impression for white women.
Indian women are not fat and mean. They are the most caring women, and they need their family to be happy. They don't want any of their family member to become victim of some girl. And who told that "women are powerless". They are not powerless, they are with control, with family values. The same is with indian parents. They don't want their son to fall in hands of white women. In india, white women are believed to be more wild and more free(than necessary). contrary to indian women, they don't have respect for elders and do what they think is right. So, I believe that indian guys are more attracted to indian women and vice versa(than few American-borned indians)...No offense to anyone

[rachelson]

First of all, this letter was written to Jamie Foster-Brown, editor of magazine Sister 2 Sister Magazine, concerning BLACK men, NOT indian men.

Did none of you notice the examples she gave:
"Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius,Berry Gordy, BillyBlanks, Larry Fishburne, Jesley Snipes...I could go on and on."

They are ALL black men.

Not only that, but read the examples BLACK (not Indian) Royalty gave of the Egyptian Queens... What does that have to do with Indian women?? Absolutely nothing...

To read the REAL letter and REAL response, here's the link:
http://www.agoodblackman.com/mantalk_blkroyalty.shtml

[knowledgeable]

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