After Greencard

But between the broad smiles, behind the cheerful exterior and in those moist, rheumy eyes lies an untold story - A tale of isolation from their children, loneliness, anxiety, fear, insecurity and uncertainty and all their dreams doomed by sugar coated emotional vested interests just like tigers in sheep skins or weeds on fruit bearing mango tree. The story they would rather leave untold forever. They are happy for their Sons, proud of our achievements and watch our progress from a distance. They are not going to complain and will continue to take things in their stride. They are financially independent sound and hence they did send their sons to USA for better future. Although, the fear of ageing without their children and above all emotional encroachment of their Son’s mind/home by in laws( outlaws!) to make hay when sun shine in USA. Parent will rarely, if ever, give us a glimpse of this unease.
NRI SON’S PARENT’S STOREY IN A NUTSHELL
Many NRI obedient sons strive to support their parents by sending money and gifts home. Often though, the parents are reasonably well off and aren’t really pressed for financial support. What they hunger for instead is emotional support and love. The following story based on realities and not directed to any living being directly or indirectly and if it happens, it is a mere coincidence.
Not so Long ago there lived a couple Raman & Shalini, retired middle class Govt servants in Mumbai suburbs. Their three grownup successful faithful children well settled abroad with arranged marriage. Elder son Sumant in US with a son with an obedient transparent natured loving wife Kriti who always talk from heart. She belongs to Top class qualified parents. Mother was a Dean with PHD and father with similar matching biodata. Raman & shalini have made several memorable trips to US and their life's happiness reached moon with the Son’s family with a loving daughter in law, grand son.They became Green card holders and stared living permanently. In about two years Kriti’s mother retired from her job and decided to encroach permanently with son in law. But Kriti’s father was against her decision and for this reason both separated from each other permanently. Thus Kriti’s mother has deserted her all near dear ones i.e. husband,two well settled sons in Pune/Bengaluru,only for greed and lust of American luxuries. Kriti’s mother has gradually dominated & Meddled with all affairs. Polluted her daughter/son in law’s life. Sumant started calling her as Pune Ayee. She made fat bank FDRs of over a Million rupees & Gold ornaments worth over a few pounds in weight and specially with a proud piece of gold necklace of about one pound which is stalk of the town which was put on show on her neck during her second daughter’s marriage in pune. Gradually son was mentally drifted away from his real parents by Pune Ayee with her mesmerised cosmetic love & vested affection. Finally real parents branded as dead woods.
 This act Pune Ayee has razed out the peace of entire family and mainly of Raman & Shalini. Small petty domestic unrest blown out of proportion and turned into mini kaliyug mahabharat i.e. kauravs(Kreeti& Pune Ayee) & pandavas(Raman & shalini ). Sumant preferred to play safe in this war and took the role of bhishma. i.e. mentally with Parents(past ) and physically with wife & Pune ayee(present and future). Cockbull fighting/wrestling/mud slinging war between both sides was a frequent affairs.50/100 dollar notes did start missing and blame was placed cleverly/cunningly on Pandavas. Pune ayee ashamed Shakuni in her tacts.and tricks All human values. ethics, morals went to the trash cans of USA. Support less Sensible at last, Pandavas decided to accept defeat in favour of Kauravas and left for Mumbai with a heavy heart of shattered dreams of living with legitimate son.
Thereafter Kriti at the instigation of her mom, cut off fully from her in-laws and enforced Sumant to do the same. Sumant never bothered to visit their Parents during their life time due to the fear of present and future. After a year or so Kriti got second child which she never showed to her in laws even on video chat. Raman & shalini succumbed to mental agony gradually in a span of three years. Elder Son Sumant could not fulfil their single wish of showing his new born baby girl to grand parents. Sumant only visited after death of parents for last rituals and more particularly for a pound of flesh of share at the instance of her pune ayee. In fact fortunately other two children and some relatives took care of their parents and were at their bed side at the time of dire need of and till the end which made parent’s funeral home journey peaceful. THAT IS THE END OF STORY
While reading this story, from our home windows, my wife & I saw lot of panic movements of birds ran for shelter as if something horrible is going to happen. And within about one minute I saw a heavy gusty storm with unseasonal down pour converted our bed room into a pond within next 30 seconds for not being alert as birds to take preventives such as to close windows. Thus the We got real moral of story i.e. be alert like birds and make the dusk of life little less painful.
The greed of love, wealth, jealousy and luxurious life style of USA compelled to Pune Ayee to desert her legitimate place of retirement life and life’s partner Husband, two well settled male children and encroached daughter’s home illegitimately and made the life of all concerned hell for ever including her own daughter & son in law. This is warning bell to all concerned to not cross their legitimate territory set by the Indian family system and if such incidents occur, it shall be better that son’s parents should surrender in favour of the greedy encroachers od out laws in the interest of your son’s family’s happiness in which your happiness also lies.
So dear Parents of NRI SON’s:- BEAWARE THESE FACTS & PIT FALLS.
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‘2. Be alert as Birds to avert ensuing calamities.
3. Two swords do not fit into one scabbard.
4. Be independent/Movable till end without burden to your Son or anyone for that matter.
5. Do not expect from any one including your Son & Accept whatever comes with attitude of gratitude. This Make a happy peaceful adieu.
6 They are young and yet to learn karmic theory & karmic debts and sure they shall learn well before it is too late.
7. Children are not our retirement Fund. They are the flowers only to see beauty and not to pluck.
8. “Home is a miniature heaven” and when it is not that “ it is a magnified, intensified, infernal Hell”.
9.Jo rasta apnliye banahi nahi, use chod dena hi behatar hai