Adjustment of Status - I-485

Hello everyone

Please hear me out and give some advice. I’m very tensed. So I came to US on B1/B2 visa in Aug/2019 and got married to a US citizen in Dec/2019. I thought I was madly in love. We filed for our I-485 AOS through marriage in Aug/2020. Biometrics done in Feb/2021. I received my EAD-AP combo in April/2021. We had our marriage interview last week but we postponed due to health reasons. Field office is Newark, NJ. Since June we are having very very difficult situations. She is mentally very abusive towards me. She knows I like her and she takes full advantage of me. She likes to completely control me. I don’t have much friends as well here. Now, I got an amazing job offer as I applied after my EAD and after extensive interviews. This offer is more than triple of her salary and she is completely jealous. She is discouraging me to take the job. I don’t want to be dependent on her completely. And I am not losing this job opportunity.

So I read about VAWA case. My interview will be soon rescheduled. So it’s a pending I-485 application. To file for VAWA, do I have to first get divorced from her? Will I lose my EAD then? And subsequently my job? If I transfer to a VAWA application, will I be not able to use the current EAD?
I want to separate from her as I cannot take this abuse but I don’t want to lose this job.

Can someone please please guide?