Running Mad! Date fixed, My wife refused to attend Interview, threatening divorce.

[Giver]

Lost words to describe the situation. We have been happy together till this moment. Interview date is fixed for around two weeks from now. Already received the EAD/AP. Just need advice. What can i do if she refused to go. .

[Giver]

Can I postpone the interview? How do I go about it.

[graceforme]

Just try a lil bit to describe it so we can know how to give an advice I just prayed for you because I know this could happen to anyone of us God will see us through he didn't bring us this far to leave us in the middle of no where

[WhoDaDaddy]

Can I postpone the interview? How do I go about it.

I don't think it would be wise to try and postpone this interview. It's a crucial step in the process so barring a medical emergency it would be looked upon rather unfavourably if you ask me.

If you can't persuade your spouse to attend which you have time to do (I would keep attempting to find out the cause for such a turnabout by the way as this may also be relevant in what you say to immigration officers).
Could it be the fact in the event of you not staying together she might become financially liable for you as she sponsored you?
Is she scared because she has knowingly lied on the forms (and you are not aware of this i.e married previously .... it does happen!)

In any case you need to try and reason with her that it's best for you both to attend and that this is for the both of you to continue on with your married life.

If all else fails and she won't go then be prepared for some tough questioning. Obviously why she hasn't attended will be number one! You can't respond with I don't know as you are a couple and they will expect that you have been communicating. Secondly you might be asked Where do you go from here (i.e counselling, separation, divorce?). Can you survive financially alone?

Remember at the time of your application you are stated that you entered into a bona fide marriage... Can you prove that? If so then you can go on to demonstrate that up until now you have had a loving relationship.. Texts, emails, fb posts etc. Romantic getaways, Valentine's cards etc etc. If you in your heart of hearts were in it for the long haul then all is not lost.
Relationships do change and officials do realise that, if you can prove that you are financially intermingled, had plans not of a short term nature and this is very much an unexpected reaction from your spouse you might be able to convince officers.

I would hope others give you some advice on thus forum as it a sad situation to hear about.

Caution goes out to everyone that although you may think you know everything about your partner it may not always be the case. The USCIS on their own website warn potential immigrants to know who they are interacting with. At least in your case your spouse isn't blackmailing you into requesting money to attend the interview which on other websites I have read cases whereby all was seemingly well up until this very point and that is when financial demands all of a sudden are made!

Wishing you well, and hope others can assist you.

[mika84]

If your wife doesn't show any progress and no reasoning works, it's better to postpone the interview rather than appear alone. On average they might give you extra 2-3 month before next interview and you will have plenty of time to come in good terms with your wife.