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I need your help. I petitioned for my husband. We've been married for a year and he already has his conditional residence card. This marriage has became a nightmare for both of us and we see life completely different. He became a very possessive person and it bothers him that i spend time with my parents, my sister.. It bothers him when I go see my girl friends. He says he doesnt mind but when I get there he starts an argument, calls me and wants to have full on conversations while Im at somebody's house. If I tell him that we will speak later or when I get home, he then looses control and calls me 100 times and accuses me of being God knows where..... when things calm down he says he doesnt mean it and he knows Im faithful but thats only until I decide to go somewhere again. And its not like Im meeting my friends at clubs, if i see anyone thats over at their house or for lunch/dinner. We hang out together with other couples but I feel like i shouldnt be isolated from the world only because Im married and I should be able to have my own friends just like he does and his are out of town. He's traveled out of town before and I never caused scenes for him so Im the only one to blame. I feel like he wants to isolate me from the world and only that would stop his behavior...I cannot take it mentally anymore. He became the complete opposite of who he was when we dated. I guess we didnt live together back then so I never saw this side of him. Even though we havent fixed any of our problems he talks about wanting to have kids because in his head that would fix everything (I would probably be home all the time) but I feel that this is a toxic environment and I dont think its fair to bring an innocent child into chaos....
I really truly love him with all my heart and I struggle so much. I know I cant change him, Im 34 yrs old and Im old enough to see that this is destroying both of us. Im deciding to end things but I dont want him to loose his GC. I dont think its fair for his future plans to go to waste because we are seperating. But he made it clear that he doesnt need my help with anything..
I know he can file a waver for his 10 year but Im nervous for both of us...when we went through this whole process Im the one who put everything together, collected evidence, spent so many nights on this site and kept track of everything. I feel like if I leave it up to him he wont know how to do any of these things.... and I wont have control over it. He might not know how to prove the validity of our marriage and then what?? Am i gonna be notified or in trouble because he doesnt have enough proof or doesnt remember things and Im not there to correct him or remind him???
Im wondering if I should get a lawyer to ask all these things. Do I need to notify immigration, am I required to notify them after divorce is final? I really dont want to ruin his life or for his current GC to be revoked.....I wont ever mention to them the bad times If they ever ask I would just tell them we came to realization that we are too different...
I know my post is long but i really need to hear some opinions, Im going crazy...
I need your help. I petitioned for my husband. We've been married for a year and he already has his conditional residence card. This marriage has became a nightmare for both of us and we see life completely different. He became a very possessive person and it bothers him that i spend time with my parents, my sister.. It bothers him when I go see my girl friends. He says he doesnt mind but when I get there he starts an argument, calls me and wants to have full on conversations while Im at somebody's house. If I tell him that we will speak later or when I get home, he then looses control and calls me 100 times and accuses me of being God knows where..... when things calm down he says he doesnt mean it and he knows Im faithful but thats only until I decide to go somewhere again. And its not like Im meeting my friends at clubs, if i see anyone thats over at their house or for lunch/dinner. We hang out together with other couples but I feel like i shouldnt be isolated from the world only because Im married and I should be able to have my own friends just like he does and his are out of town. He's traveled out of town before and I never caused scenes for him so Im the only one to blame. I feel like he wants to isolate me from the world and only that would stop his behavior...I cannot take it mentally anymore. He became the complete opposite of who he was when we dated. I guess we didnt live together back then so I never saw this side of him. Even though we havent fixed any of our problems he talks about wanting to have kids because in his head that would fix everything (I would probably be home all the time) but I feel that this is a toxic environment and I dont think its fair to bring an innocent child into chaos....
I really truly love him with all my heart and I struggle so much. I know I cant change him, Im 34 yrs old and Im old enough to see that this is destroying both of us. Im deciding to end things but I dont want him to loose his GC. I dont think its fair for his future plans to go to waste because we are seperating. But he made it clear that he doesnt need my help with anything..
I know he can file a waver for his 10 year but Im nervous for both of us...when we went through this whole process Im the one who put everything together, collected evidence, spent so many nights on this site and kept track of everything. I feel like if I leave it up to him he wont know how to do any of these things.... and I wont have control over it. He might not know how to prove the validity of our marriage and then what?? Am i gonna be notified or in trouble because he doesnt have enough proof or doesnt remember things and Im not there to correct him or remind him???
Im wondering if I should get a lawyer to ask all these things. Do I need to notify immigration, am I required to notify them after divorce is final? I really dont want to ruin his life or for his current GC to be revoked.....I wont ever mention to them the bad times If they ever ask I would just tell them we came to realization that we are too different...
I know my post is long but i really need to hear some opinions, Im going crazy...
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