i 751

[Isla]

Hi,
I am in a delicate situation,
I met john online in December 2016 can two months later came to visit him in nyc ( I am from Germany ).
It was for me, absolute love at first sight so after spending 3 weeks together, he asked me to come back as soon as possible and stay the maximum period, which I did and during this second period of time he proposed me, I was really shocked on how fast he did this but I said yes
We spoke a lot about how to do it and he did not want to stay in the US so I proposed him to come back with me in my country after my 3 months period in the US, because I really did not care where we would be, as long as we would be together
So we went there and he liked it, and then we decided to get married there and start a life there. After us spending 3 months in Berlin and getting married, we went back to NYC to get his visa for Germany, which he got pretty easily, we stayed 3 months, for him to square things up with his job etc and then finally went to my country.
Once there, not immediately, he started to feel different about my country and started somehow to hate it, started to drink heavily and it became quite an issue to the point that after few months, if he wanted to go back to nyc and he said yes !
I was annoyed, because I have to leave my mom thats old and my apartment but I never loved someone like I loved him and decided that I should at least give it a try.
We filled a spouse visa but since that when we did that we were married for less that 2 years, once it was approved I got a conditional on it
We got back to NYC after 14 months, It was quite a shock to me to be honest, I never thought I would do something like this... I had this apartment for so long, and was scared something would happen to my mom, I feel kinda heartbroken for few months but I tried to move on and started to make art and sell it online and it kind of worked, I was happy about this .
I had no bank account and had transferred all my money from Euro to dollars to his bank account, he basically had all my my money.
After a year, on his birthday and since he was still drinking a lot, he completely lost it and started to run on the rooftops half naked after we had a fight and I told him he could go drink in the garden I was tired of him talking to me like if I was a dog, because when he would get drunk thats how he would treat me. And then apologize and cry, I was confused for a long time before I understood what was his deal
I told him I had enough of this but instead of stopping he drank even more and every time we had a fight he would go out and spend the night outside/ in bars...

I am sorry to give so much details but I want to make myself understood as much as I can,

What happened next is that he left me in February 2020 to live in a van, he left me with nothing and I never asked anything, I dont know why he did that but I guess our fight were so bad that he could not live around me anymore
I started to do food delivery on my electric scooter to survive, a friend came to visit me to help and let me use her car so I could learn how to drive

Then he left to live in a trailer in PA

Then somewhere else, he never told me about, but he needed help from his dad that owns the building in were I live and told him the whole story about us, which was for me incredible since he never wanted his dad to know we were married because he thought his dad would remove him from his will or whatever, not sure I understood this correctly

At that point and until November 2020, I thought me and John would reconnected at some point because our relationship was a little better, I would come visit him and we would talk on the phone almost every day AND he filed the i 751 with me in October 2020 so ...

When he told me a month later that he met someone and did not wish to hear from me anymore, I got very very confused because he also told me that I would be on my own with immigration... not really surprised because by then I knew he was kinda of nuts but still ...
He refused all communication with me until beginning of march 2021, he called me at 10 am while I was at work, drunk making treats about me leaving the apartment I am living in which is his dads property and all kinda of other treats, refused to give me his mailing address for the mail I was getting for him

And then a month ago almost same thing, he called me early on the morning, drunk yelling to tell me he lost a job for the second time this year, that his gf left him and that she is pregnant

I feel like I am in the twilight zone ...

Today I got an answer for the i751 telling me that of course they need more proof of me entering the marriage in good faith to remove my conditional

This is scary because well we never filed taxes together, did not have kids or joint bank accounts... and now we not living together for a year and half

I am really scared and I am not sure what to do...

Can someone help me ?

[newacct]

Do you want to stay in the US or move back to Germany to be with your mom?

If you want to stay in the US, I feel like you will probably end up having to file for divorce, and change your I-751 to one based on divorce.

Technically, if you guys remain married, your joint I-751 (on the basis of being married) can still be approved, even if you guys are separated or preparing for divorce, as long as divorce is not final, and he is willing to attend an interview if there is one. The problem is that you are missing a lot of evidence of bona fide marriage, and the only honest explanation you can give is that you guys have been separated for a while, but if you say that, they will almost certainly require an interview, and I am guessing that he might not show up for an interview. If he doesn't go to the interview, then the only option is to file for divorce and file I-751 based on divorce, and be honest that you don't have much evidence because you guys separated early on, and present as much evidence you have from earlier in the marriage.

[UScitizenFilingforspouse]

Isla I am sorry this is happening to you. I think it comes down to you showing all the evidence that you may have. Would you share what you submitted, and what else USCIS asking for?
Like newacct said, it is key that you present as much evidence as you may have available that you entered the marriage in good faith and not to circumvent US immigration laws.I would say that it would be very helpful if:

1. you could get phone records, download text messages and present those.
2. affidavits from people who know both of you and that can attest to all the effort you've put into making the relationship work.
3. you could also include evidence of the money you transferred into his account.

I am sorry. It just sounds like your husband needs psychological help. The fact that he told you that you would be on your own with immigration is abusive.

By the way, be sure to delete your browsing history and change your passwords. I am hopeful that you feel safe where you are. If you do not, there is always VAWA.

[Isla]

Isla I am sorry this is happening to you. I think it comes down to you showing all the evidence that you may have. Would you share what you submitted, and what else USCIS asking for?
Like newacct said, it is key that you present as much evidence as you may have available that you entered the marriage in good faith and not to circumvent US immigration laws.I would say that it would be very helpful if:

1. you could get phone records, download text messages and present those.
2. affidavits from people who know both of you and that can attest to all the effort you've put into making the relationship work.
3. you could also include evidence of the money you transferred into his account.

I am sorry. It just sounds like your husband needs psychological help. The fact that he told you that you would be on your own with immigration is abusive.

By the way, be sure to delete your browsing history and change your passwords. I am hopeful that you feel safe where you are. If you do not, there is always VAWA.

Hey thank you so much for your response, I do not have much proof but i am confident because I am not hiding anything and I spoke an immigration lawyer that told me I have a good chance to be approved anyway, the issue now is to find a divorce lawyer

[UScitizenFilingforspouse]

I am glad to hear that you have already consulted with an immigration attorney. In case you are looking for ways to show evidence of bona fide marriage, I am sharing this link with you here. https://www.immihelp.com/forum/adjus...e11#post760990

All the best to you,

USCFFS