Divorce Help Needed

[plshelpme]

Hi,
I am a girl working in US on H1. I got married in my home country 3 months ago. It was an "ARRANGED MARRIAGE" and I known the guy only from 10 days before my marriage.

After marriage I was in my home country for 2 weeks to process the H4 formalities for my husband. We came to US after the paperwork for my husband is finished and he got the H4 visa.

During my days in my home country I observed some absurd behavior in my husband (before and after marriage). BUT his parents covered a lot for that guy's behavior in many situations.

We came here 2 months ago. I started observing many abnormalities in his every day behavior in all the daily petty issues. He used to HARASS ME for everything & doubted me for everything I did and also started suspecting me and my past relations (which never existed). He always called his parents back home and wanted them to enquire about my past IN MY PRESENCE to threaten me.

One fine day I proposed on going back to our home country to fix the issues and start afresh. He did not agree on RETURNING TO OUR HOME COUNTRY and insisted me to divorce him.

I called his elder sister who lives in NJ to resolve the issues. Upon very lengthy conversations & discussions during which my husband DENIED proposing a divorce, his sister & her husband(who came from NJ) informed me that my husband is mentally challenged. I was greatly surprised (not a complete shock due to his earlier behavior towards me). They took my husband to NJ and PROMISED ME to send him back to my home country in the next 1 or 2 weeks and resolve the issues. THEY DID NOT GIVE ME THEIR ADDRESS IN NJ.

BUT now, after 2 weeks, my husband is in NJ and having fun clubbing around (which I knew through Orkut Pics in his id). I have a strong feeling that they are planning an alternate to have him in US and find a new relation or something like that.

I want to send him back to my home country and file for a divorce here or in my home country.

What options do I have?
What is the best way to proceed?
Do I need any strong reasons since I do not have any proof that he is mentally challenged?
SHOULD I CALL THE COPS AND HAVE HIM TAKEN IN CUSTODY AND DEPORT TO MY HOME COUNTRY?

Please help me in this issue so that guy will not cheat on someone else & I want to come out of this as less exposed as possible.

Your expert responses are extremely highly appraciated. Thanks!!!

Pls help me ,i dont have anyone who are there for me in life..as i lost my mom..and no family for me..i am an individual girl

[immihelp]

I suggest that you contact an attorney that practices family law.

If you are looking for an Indian lawyer, you can find one at http://www.immihelp.com/yellowpages/

[House_Wife]

What does he do for living? Has he started working there? if not then who is paying for all the fun he is having? I am assuming his sister. if not and if he is using any of ur credit cards remove him from ur credit cards. and if u have any bank account together try to remove him from it. before u apply for a divorce. and u can apply for a divorce from USA.

I am myself in a very difficult situation right now. my husband got me to India and filed for a divorce. and he didnot give me any money and my family is not that strong financially at all. I am trying to get back to USA and fight from there. I am almost a US citizen I just have to take a oath there and as soon as i take my oath I a gonna call him and tell him to come back to US and to give me a divorce there. I am a house wife. He never let me work.he always said u need to be home I need to be working outside. today I don't have any money at all. cause he had everything on his name. all I have on my name and his name is the house in USA. So i can atleast fight for my house.

That's why I am suggesting you to take control of ur money right away. before taking any steps.

Where u located in US?

Good luck
Roma

[upengan78]

It could be he is enjoying his last days in america . but do not let him using your money.

Also if you really want a divorce talk to attorney. if you want him back then also talk to attorney , Police I am not sure can be helpful in this matter unless you tell them he has run away and not reported to you or you can straightaway talk to guy in NJ.

You should take help of your blood relatives like uncle or very close, there is not end to fighting and no peace in being alone too.

Even if you are divorced you need some one with whom you can share feelings ...in long run...may be your close friend in college...

if he comes back and harasses you do not forgive and call 911 without waiting let them take the bugger to JAIL. I AM SURE You have never done 911 for him but try it they will warn him and if he is wise he will be a good boy then

[lifedisapponts]

Have you tried marriage counselling before you took the step of involving other family member's?I don't think so listen carefully just by mere earning and getting someone on dependent Visa doesnt make you great ..its great when you get that person stand on his/her legs financially and then if he or she or both partners want to separate by all means but by doing so you have proved to be a better human being and keeping those vows that you knowingly or unknowigly have taken during your marriage whether you like it or ot he/she is your life partner and i guess that is what you shoudl be doing and also it makes it easy tomorrow when u apply for divorce you ahve proof of showing that you did everything you could to save the marriage but then it did not work you would come out without a harm and with good view ..personally you may also feel good that you did something good for someone who was trying to create trouble for you ....
You cannot be broken until you decide to be one...
Take care and think about it ...
God Bless you

It could be he is enjoying his last days in america . but do not let him using your money.

Also if you really want a divorce talk to attorney. if you want him back then also talk to attorney , Police I am not sure can be helpful in this matter unless you tell them he has run away and not reported to you or you can straightaway talk to guy in NJ.

You should take help of your blood relatives like uncle or very close, there is not end to fighting and no peace in being alone too.

Even if you are divorced you need some one with whom you can share feelings ...in long run...may be your close friend in college...

if he comes back and harasses you do not forgive and call 911 without waiting let them take the bugger to JAIL. I AM SURE You have never done 911 for him but try it they will warn him and if he is wise he will be a good boy then