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Hi guys, thanks for taking the time to read my post. I am a USC seeking advice about my marriage gone sour with my wife who is from another country.
Very long story short, we met in college in 2010, maintained a long distance relationship for a few years and got married at the end of 2012. She came on a K1 visa and we got married the same month. All the paperwork since getting married has been handled by her, but I think she's a conditional permanent resident now. Basically, we've had a very rocky relationship since we got married, and we have tried a couple things including marriage counseling, which worked but we couldn't afford to continue.
I would like to consider a divorce for the following reasons:
- she is often inconsiderate and argues pretty much any time she doesn't get her way.
- back in November I found some dating sites and sites on immigration divorce in the browser history; I really struggle to trust her anymore.
- she goes out with her friends just about every weekend and often doesn't come back until the next day.
- she has grown colder; when I try to hug her or show affection, she pushes me away. She rolls away from me when I try to cuddle in bed. The intimacy is gone! We haven't been intimate for months.
- I am a first-year teacher and I got stuck with a 3 hour daily commute because I wanted to see her every day. I hardly see her; she isn't usually back when I get home and we don't spend time together anyway.
I'm sure she has her own reasons.
Last weekend, we got into an argument for several reasons, one of them being that I suggested I would like to teach English abroad because of limited local teaching opportunities. She didn't like that for some reason. Anyway, I came home from work the next day and mentioned a couple nearby teaching positions I am applying for. She seemed indifferent, so I addressed it. She said "Well, we are through." I called her bluff because it didn't seem like she was upset. It sounded like she had thought it over logically. So we didn't talk the rest of the week. She went out Saturday and didn't come back till this morning. Today, I asked her what is she thinking about what she said. We argued some more about things, and she started crying.
It sounds like she still loves me and is afraid to leave me. She doesn't want to leave me, but it has gotten to the point where she needs to leave. I really don't know how to respond to it. I feel the same way, but I think I am more prepared to move on. For a few months I have been considering this as a possibility, but I needed to know that she didn't want to be with me anymore.
Later on she approached me to ask about arranging a time to discuss who should take what belongings.
I really need help on this.
Very long story short, we met in college in 2010, maintained a long distance relationship for a few years and got married at the end of 2012. She came on a K1 visa and we got married the same month. All the paperwork since getting married has been handled by her, but I think she's a conditional permanent resident now. Basically, we've had a very rocky relationship since we got married, and we have tried a couple things including marriage counseling, which worked but we couldn't afford to continue.
I would like to consider a divorce for the following reasons:
- she is often inconsiderate and argues pretty much any time she doesn't get her way.
- back in November I found some dating sites and sites on immigration divorce in the browser history; I really struggle to trust her anymore.
- she goes out with her friends just about every weekend and often doesn't come back until the next day.
- she has grown colder; when I try to hug her or show affection, she pushes me away. She rolls away from me when I try to cuddle in bed. The intimacy is gone! We haven't been intimate for months.
- I am a first-year teacher and I got stuck with a 3 hour daily commute because I wanted to see her every day. I hardly see her; she isn't usually back when I get home and we don't spend time together anyway.
I'm sure she has her own reasons.
Last weekend, we got into an argument for several reasons, one of them being that I suggested I would like to teach English abroad because of limited local teaching opportunities. She didn't like that for some reason. Anyway, I came home from work the next day and mentioned a couple nearby teaching positions I am applying for. She seemed indifferent, so I addressed it. She said "Well, we are through." I called her bluff because it didn't seem like she was upset. It sounded like she had thought it over logically. So we didn't talk the rest of the week. She went out Saturday and didn't come back till this morning. Today, I asked her what is she thinking about what she said. We argued some more about things, and she started crying.
It sounds like she still loves me and is afraid to leave me. She doesn't want to leave me, but it has gotten to the point where she needs to leave. I really don't know how to respond to it. I feel the same way, but I think I am more prepared to move on. For a few months I have been considering this as a possibility, but I needed to know that she didn't want to be with me anymore.
Later on she approached me to ask about arranging a time to discuss who should take what belongings.
I really need help on this.
