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My fiance obtained her visa on July 8 at the US Embassy in Ankara. She was supposed to arrive in the US on Aug 8. We had been arguing over random things for the past several months, with me always apologizing and sending flowers since I was the one that was usually nagging her for not being very attentive (long distance really, really sucks). Two weeks ago, however, it was different. We started fighting over 1) my refusal to accept her father's money to put a partial down payment on home in the US after marriage (I don't want to deal with buying a home at this time and I have a perfectly good apartment in an upscale neighborhood), and 2) her refusal to make a genuine effort to quit smoking. I even didn't know she was a smoker until 6 months into the relationship. Long story short, she told me two days later that she has canceled her ticket and I should never call her again.
Last March she found out (by going into my email without my permission) that I casually dated a girl in the US during this 1.5-year long-distance relationship (bear in mind that I only spent a total of 4 weeks in physical contact with my fiance over 3 trips overseas this whole time). After a month of arguing, we agreed that she should not get her visa if she could not get over that whole episode. That said, she still went to the interview and obtained her visa. This may also be a factor, however, really think she should have broken up with me right then and there rather than move forward with this.
I don't think there is really any reason for me to apologize, and I think she is just being completely immature. Nothing has changed since 3 months ago, and I think she shouldn't have gone out to her interview if she wasn't sure that this is what she wanted. I am getting close to the point where I think this relationship was a COMPLETE waste of time and I was being manipulated all along. I'm curious to know if there a way to nullify her visa without having to deal with her and her family.
Thank you,
My fiance obtained her visa on July 8 at the US Embassy in Ankara. She was supposed to arrive in the US on Aug 8. We had been arguing over random things for the past several months, with me always apologizing and sending flowers since I was the one that was usually nagging her for not being very attentive (long distance really, really sucks). Two weeks ago, however, it was different. We started fighting over 1) my refusal to accept her father's money to put a partial down payment on home in the US after marriage (I don't want to deal with buying a home at this time and I have a perfectly good apartment in an upscale neighborhood), and 2) her refusal to make a genuine effort to quit smoking. I even didn't know she was a smoker until 6 months into the relationship. Long story short, she told me two days later that she has canceled her ticket and I should never call her again.
Last March she found out (by going into my email without my permission) that I casually dated a girl in the US during this 1.5-year long-distance relationship (bear in mind that I only spent a total of 4 weeks in physical contact with my fiance over 3 trips overseas this whole time). After a month of arguing, we agreed that she should not get her visa if she could not get over that whole episode. That said, she still went to the interview and obtained her visa. This may also be a factor, however, really think she should have broken up with me right then and there rather than move forward with this.
I don't think there is really any reason for me to apologize, and I think she is just being completely immature. Nothing has changed since 3 months ago, and I think she shouldn't have gone out to her interview if she wasn't sure that this is what she wanted. I am getting close to the point where I think this relationship was a COMPLETE waste of time and I was being manipulated all along. I'm curious to know if there a way to nullify her visa without having to deal with her and her family.
Thank you,
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