Hi here is my story ..
I came to US around 2004 on H1B along with my wife (H4) we have been having small minor disagreements at all times which i guess is normal for any couple in a relation i am more kind of conservative side not meaning that not being modern but open minded to the limits of society and indian culture when i moved here we were married for almost 2 and 1/2 years which is a good time (in normal case) to know each other and get along now since we got married we have had normal sex life (its improtant for me to mention this not tryign to be vulgar sorry if sounds that way) initial 2 years in US were kind of good we were having our own good life slowly slowly problem started when my inlaws would call i prefer to stay out of their conversation ( i feel that my wife shoudl have that privacy of talking with her parents without any hinderance ) so i normally walk out or go out for groceries,..but then she wanted me to stay there in during the conversation which i could not uderstand why ...?
Then a couple of years ago my mother in law visited us and at that time i had lost my job and was looking for another during her visit she interfered in all my matters right from dictating who my parents should have relations with to my personal matters till a point where i cldnt even talk to my wife or my kid..tht is when i said thti s enough and to my shock all this time my wife kept mum not even uttering a sigle word askign her mom to keep to the limits...i was ridiculed in every occasion ..infact i payed for my wifes tution with all my savings and took some personal loan spent almost 20000..helped her with her assingements...took care of my kid...did the household chores...so that it would not effect her studies ...but finally one day under her mom's influence she quit her education after almost a year ...and blaming me as to forcing her to study ...(yeah as if i had that extra cash dancing in my pocket!!!) anyways then she used to pick a fight for some or the other reason with me i kep my cool until the time when they made my days so horrible that i avoided stayign at my home i stayed in a mtel for almost 2 weeks till my mother in law left ...after that i got a job started working hard keeping in mind all the words that i was told saying that i had to sell my belongings during my unemployement and all the crap...so i focused on my career and kept on working as demanded...after 3 months my wife decided that she wanted to go back to India i tried to explain her that wait for few months and lets settle the way that we were before and then u can go ...but still she picked up a fight and left for India with my kid ...its been over 2 years and we barely talk when ever i call her she says she cannot hear the the signal isnt good ..all excuses so i stopped calling her ..After a while one of my friend found a video clip of her having sex with 2 other guys ...i was devastated ...after knowing tht fact too i tried my best to convince her to talk to me but she would not ...after 2 and 1/2 years away i think i cannot wait for this person anymore i think i want to move on with my life ...looking into this scenario can some one suggest me a way to get divorce ...We were married in India as per hindu marriage act..I know that people might think how dumb cld u be to believe what you friend says about your wife ...but i did not believe him until a couple of incedence did happen in al life and after i saw those clips ...i am urging some one from the firm to please help me ....its been a nightmare i get nighmares sometime about those horrifying incidents and mental agonies that i have been through ..they are filthy rich and my tension is about my kids and my parents safety back home ....i am ready to undergo any difficulties but i do not want them to suffer for any of these stuff ....plss any enlighten person here can guide me ...i would really appriciate it ...pls email me the response ...If any females are reading this my advice is marry the person who you prefer and try to understand your partner that is the best way you can have a happy life..dont make your life and other person involved life's miserable and a laughing stock for all others...
and Do not make marriage a Joke....just beacuse of gender it not that things dont happen...they happen to anyone and everyone immaterial of gender..and financial status...
Thank you .
Be safe and god bless you all
I came to US around 2004 on H1B along with my wife (H4) we have been having small minor disagreements at all times which i guess is normal for any couple in a relation i am more kind of conservative side not meaning that not being modern but open minded to the limits of society and indian culture when i moved here we were married for almost 2 and 1/2 years which is a good time (in normal case) to know each other and get along now since we got married we have had normal sex life (its improtant for me to mention this not tryign to be vulgar sorry if sounds that way) initial 2 years in US were kind of good we were having our own good life slowly slowly problem started when my inlaws would call i prefer to stay out of their conversation ( i feel that my wife shoudl have that privacy of talking with her parents without any hinderance ) so i normally walk out or go out for groceries,..but then she wanted me to stay there in during the conversation which i could not uderstand why ...?
Then a couple of years ago my mother in law visited us and at that time i had lost my job and was looking for another during her visit she interfered in all my matters right from dictating who my parents should have relations with to my personal matters till a point where i cldnt even talk to my wife or my kid..tht is when i said thti s enough and to my shock all this time my wife kept mum not even uttering a sigle word askign her mom to keep to the limits...i was ridiculed in every occasion ..infact i payed for my wifes tution with all my savings and took some personal loan spent almost 20000..helped her with her assingements...took care of my kid...did the household chores...so that it would not effect her studies ...but finally one day under her mom's influence she quit her education after almost a year ...and blaming me as to forcing her to study ...(yeah as if i had that extra cash dancing in my pocket!!!) anyways then she used to pick a fight for some or the other reason with me i kep my cool until the time when they made my days so horrible that i avoided stayign at my home i stayed in a mtel for almost 2 weeks till my mother in law left ...after that i got a job started working hard keeping in mind all the words that i was told saying that i had to sell my belongings during my unemployement and all the crap...so i focused on my career and kept on working as demanded...after 3 months my wife decided that she wanted to go back to India i tried to explain her that wait for few months and lets settle the way that we were before and then u can go ...but still she picked up a fight and left for India with my kid ...its been over 2 years and we barely talk when ever i call her she says she cannot hear the the signal isnt good ..all excuses so i stopped calling her ..After a while one of my friend found a video clip of her having sex with 2 other guys ...i was devastated ...after knowing tht fact too i tried my best to convince her to talk to me but she would not ...after 2 and 1/2 years away i think i cannot wait for this person anymore i think i want to move on with my life ...looking into this scenario can some one suggest me a way to get divorce ...We were married in India as per hindu marriage act..I know that people might think how dumb cld u be to believe what you friend says about your wife ...but i did not believe him until a couple of incedence did happen in al life and after i saw those clips ...i am urging some one from the firm to please help me ....its been a nightmare i get nighmares sometime about those horrifying incidents and mental agonies that i have been through ..they are filthy rich and my tension is about my kids and my parents safety back home ....i am ready to undergo any difficulties but i do not want them to suffer for any of these stuff ....plss any enlighten person here can guide me ...i would really appriciate it ...pls email me the response ...If any females are reading this my advice is marry the person who you prefer and try to understand your partner that is the best way you can have a happy life..dont make your life and other person involved life's miserable and a laughing stock for all others...
and Do not make marriage a Joke....just beacuse of gender it not that things dont happen...they happen to anyone and everyone immaterial of gender..and financial status...
Thank you .
Be safe and god bless you all
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