Elderly parents left alone for the American Dream; My views

[macaque]

I know many will disagree.

Read several posts about widows and widowers being repeatedly denied visitor visas to visit their children chasing the American Dream.
In many cases , it is the only child living in US they want to visit.

If the parents cannot get their visas , why don't these child(ren) go back to India to live with their ageing parents after they have received their US degrees.
I am sure they can get a good job in India with a US degree to support themselves well , if not be super rich and career famous.

Giving back to your parents in their time of need who sacrificed so much to raise you is Good Karma.
Not hoarded wealth and career fame.

[rayb]

Macaque,

You pose an interesting question. I can't speak for the Indian cultural and family mores involved, but I work mostly with Filipino immigrants, and they face somewhat different issues regarding parents.

Most younger Filipino immigrants don't come to the U.S. for degrees, but for employment and better opportunities. After their careers are underway and children are born here, they are even less inclined to consider returning to the Philippines to stay. Unless they come from very well-to-do families, educational opportunities in the Philippines are considered quite adequate for careers in the Philippines. But the more "well-heeled" Filipino families will send their children to the U.S. for advanced education because of the prestige of a U.S. university degree, and the children either remain in the U.S. to pursue better career opportunities, or return to the Philippines to assist successful family businesses or politics.

But when it comes to parents of Filipino immigrants to the U.S., bringing the parents to the U.S. is a more likely option than returning home to be with parents. Often, however, parents can't make successful adjustments in the U.S., and end up going back to the Philippines. Health and medical services are also a big part of any such family priorities. In urban areas of the Philippines, health care is significantly cheaper than in the U.S. and readily available.

--Ray B

I know many will disagree.

Read several posts about widows and widowers being repeatedly denied visitor visas to visit their children chasing the American Dream.
In many cases , it is the only child living in US they want to visit.

If the parents cannot get their visas , why don't these child(ren) go back to India to live with their ageing parents after they have received their US degrees.
I am sure they can get a good job in India with a US degree to support themselves well , if not be super rich and career famous.

Giving back to your parents in their time of need who sacrificed so much to raise you is Good Karma.
Not hoarded wealth and career fame.