Hi,
I am in hopeless situation. I am in USA on H1 visa and my is on h4 visa and we have 5 months old kid. We got married in May 2013. Its been more than year and things have become worse for us. She says she loves me to core but at the same time abuses me a lot, threatens me to call police (when angry), have fought with every one in the family (even my cousins). She just want to live life on her own terms and thinks she is super intelligent and super beautiful and knows everything but she actually doesnt know that much. So much self obsessed that she doesnt want to listen anyone. Even her own parents, try to pacify her but she doesnt care. My wife is constantly nagging all the time and dont even let me work at office. But she has her own justifications that she want to tell or share whatever she wants to and whatever time she decides. She just wants that I should be doing everything on her terms and even cut down with my family (parents, siblings, friends, etc) to the lowest. Things went that far that she even stated threatening to commit suicide, similar and when she is calmed down, thne she says she loves me a lot and is very alone from inside. Few days back, it was too much that my parents here and dad had to be admitted in the hospital and she wasnt even bothered and was just cribbing why I left her alone at home and not taking her out.She didnt even make any food or so but kept on nagging for full 3 days and then when I came home, she was didnt let me go back to hospital and started calling neighbors to help her and told me that she would accuse me of rape. I was so terrified that I went to police station and filed the non criminal incident. Domestic violence advocate called her and I am not sure but they are taking my wife's side. My wife has done law from India and is very good at twisting things. She told that advocate told her that if she files police complaint then they can arrest me and spoil my career and send me back to India. All in all, my wife doesnt want to leave me but wants to stay with me the way she wants. She doesnt want to do any work and if she does then she thinks she is the best and also sometimes tells me that she is not a servant...(like empty mind is devils mind). For her, her parents are first but for me my parents should be 2nd and she should be first. She has no family values, no friend circle (only 1-2 friends), nothing...
Please suggest what can I do here and is there any way my status would be affected as of now in USA.
(there are many more incidents/behaviours which i wont write here)
I am in hopeless situation. I am in USA on H1 visa and my is on h4 visa and we have 5 months old kid. We got married in May 2013. Its been more than year and things have become worse for us. She says she loves me to core but at the same time abuses me a lot, threatens me to call police (when angry), have fought with every one in the family (even my cousins). She just want to live life on her own terms and thinks she is super intelligent and super beautiful and knows everything but she actually doesnt know that much. So much self obsessed that she doesnt want to listen anyone. Even her own parents, try to pacify her but she doesnt care. My wife is constantly nagging all the time and dont even let me work at office. But she has her own justifications that she want to tell or share whatever she wants to and whatever time she decides. She just wants that I should be doing everything on her terms and even cut down with my family (parents, siblings, friends, etc) to the lowest. Things went that far that she even stated threatening to commit suicide, similar and when she is calmed down, thne she says she loves me a lot and is very alone from inside. Few days back, it was too much that my parents here and dad had to be admitted in the hospital and she wasnt even bothered and was just cribbing why I left her alone at home and not taking her out.She didnt even make any food or so but kept on nagging for full 3 days and then when I came home, she was didnt let me go back to hospital and started calling neighbors to help her and told me that she would accuse me of rape. I was so terrified that I went to police station and filed the non criminal incident. Domestic violence advocate called her and I am not sure but they are taking my wife's side. My wife has done law from India and is very good at twisting things. She told that advocate told her that if she files police complaint then they can arrest me and spoil my career and send me back to India. All in all, my wife doesnt want to leave me but wants to stay with me the way she wants. She doesnt want to do any work and if she does then she thinks she is the best and also sometimes tells me that she is not a servant...(like empty mind is devils mind). For her, her parents are first but for me my parents should be 2nd and she should be first. She has no family values, no friend circle (only 1-2 friends), nothing...
Please suggest what can I do here and is there any way my status would be affected as of now in USA.
(there are many more incidents/behaviours which i wont write here)
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